ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY,
POLYAMORY & OPEN RELATIONSHIP THERAPY
Healthy relationships are not defined by whether they are monogamous or non-monogamous, but by the quality of trust, communication, consent, emotional safety, and the agreements that support them.
Whether you are exploring an open relationship, practicing polyamory, navigating relationship anarchy, or seeking therapy for another form of ethical non-monogamy, you deserve support that is affirming, knowledgeable, and free from judgment.
Consensual non-monogamy can offer possibility, honesty, autonomy, and connection—and it can also bring up complex questions around attachment, jealousy, communication, trust, boundaries, time, and shifting needs. As a therapist working with polyamorous, open, and consensually non-monogamous relationships, I help partners better understand the deeper emotional and relational patterns that shape these experiences while developing new ways of creating trust, communication, security, and connection.
Therapy for ethically non-monogamous relationships can help with:
- Opening a relationship or exploring ethical non-monogamy for the first time
- Navigating differences in relationship structure or desire for openness
- Creating, clarifying, and renegotiating agreements
- Repairing trust after broken agreements or breaches of consent
- Navigating jealousy, insecurity, attachment, and emotional safety
- Strengthening communication, honesty, and transparency
- Managing time, energy, boundaries, and competing relationship needs
- Integrating new partners and navigating relationship transitions
- Supporting polyamorous relationships, open relationships, relationship anarchy, and other consensually non-monogamous relationship structures
Attachment still matters in non-monogamous relationships
Secure attachment is not exclusive to monogamous relationships. People in polyamorous, open, and other consensually non-monogamous relationships also need trust, emotional safety, reassurance, repair, and clear communication. Our work may include exploring how attachment patterns influence relationships, what experiences such as jealousy, insecurity, or fear may be communicating, and how partners can cultivate greater security without relying on assumptions, control, or patterns of avoidance.
Support for opening a relationship
If you are considering ethical non-monogamy for the first time, therapy can help you slow down and have the conversations that matter before moving forward. Together, we explore motivations, expectations, fears, boundaries, agreements, sexual health, and what each partner needs to feel emotionally safe, respected, and secure. The goal is not to encourage or discourage any particular relationship structure, but to help you make thoughtful, informed decisions that align with your shared values and individual needs.
Rebuilding trust after broken agreements
Trust can be challenged in any relationship, including consensually non-monogamous ones. Broken agreements, crossing agreed-upon boundaries, secrecy, dishonesty, misunderstandings, or changes in expectations can create painful ruptures between partners. Whether those ruptures involve agreements, boundaries, or relationship rules, together we work to understand what happened, and I guide you in identifying the deeper emotional and relational dynamics that contributed to the rupture. Repair begins with understanding those dynamics and continues through the intentional rebuilding of honesty, communication, accountability, and trust.
Different visions for the relationship
It is not uncommon for one partner to feel curious about ethical non-monogamy while the other feels uncertain, hesitant, or prefers monogamy. When partners have different visions for their relationship, it can be difficult to know how to move forward without someone feeling pressured or left behind. My role is to help you approach these conversations with care, to support a deeper understanding of each partner's hopes, concerns, and relationship goals, and to foster honest, respectful dialogue. The goal is not to move toward any particular relationship structure, but to make thoughtful decisions that reflect your shared values while honoring each partner's individual needs.
Moving beyond assumptions
People in polyamorous, open, and other consensually non-monogamous relationships are often misunderstood or judged. In therapy, you do not need to defend or explain your relationship structure. My role is to help you understand the deeper emotional and relational patterns shaping your relationships while supporting you in building relationships rooted in consent, transparency, respect, and emotional clarity.
I welcome individuals, couples, and relationship systems seeking therapy for polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, and other forms of ethical non-monogamy. Sessions are affirming, nonjudgmental, and tailored to the unique values, agreements, and goals of your relationship.
Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy Therapy in Salt Lake City
I provide ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationship therapy for clients in Salt Lake City and throughout Utah, as well as online for clients located elsewhere in Utah. If this resonates, I invited you to reach out to schedule a FREE 15-minute consultation.
